How do you know happy people?

Last Updated on June 24, 2016 by Patrick

1. Happy people don’t gossip.

The only people who don’t gossip in their depths are those who feel that their life is very fulfilling.

If you’re happy and fulfilled with your life, why would you care about what happens in someone else’s life?

There is no need to have such a behaviour in our lives, because this does nothing else but potray us pathetically, making us look jealous…

2. Happy people are not preoccupied with other people’s problems.

People who fail to deal with their own affairs, most likely feel “miserable”.

They search for the mistakes of others just to feel somewhat better. These people don’t really know how to color their lives with interesting activities and so, they spend their time “preoccupying themselves” with the things that are happening to others.

3. Happy people don’t think negatively.

There are people who, always feeling unfulfilled, constantly complaing about anything and on the other side we have happy people who always see the glass half-full and constantly seek increasingly interesting things in their lives.

Positive thinking is a prerequisite for the economy of a happy life.

Focus on the positive aspects of your life and not on the negative ones!

4. Happy people are not envious.

Because a happy human being has absolutely no reason to be envious on other people.

They recognize the positive aspects of their lives, which don’t need to be identical to those of others, and cherish them.

They don’t compare themselves with others because they are satisfied with their own way in life, with what they have. Instead of behaving with envy, they sincerely enjoy the succes of others and celebrate their succeses with them.

5. Happy people don’t need the confirmation of others.

Happy people don’t ardently desire the appreciation and acknowledgment of others. They recognize their own worth, they have a well-defined self-esteem, well-grounded values and don’t live according to the expectations of others.

They know that they have to do things for themselves, things that will help them in life and the fact that they are not preoccupied with others’ opinions helps them trace a path of personal progress.

6. Happy people don’t seek revenge.

They do this because there is no reason why they would want to take revenge on another person.

It’s better to leave things as they are, at the will of the universal laws, and we, to continue with our lives without letting us feel overwhelmed by negative thoughts and desire for revenge.

The only way to detach yourself from the desire for revenge is to let go and accept a person or a situation as it is.

7. Happy people don’t have resentments.

Happy people have no resentments… If you keep thinking at something that marked you in a way, anything you do is just amplify your inner suffering and positive people know this and, therefore, prefer to not think about what could harm them. Learn to let go!

The feeling of letting go of anger is really liberating…

8. Happy people are not keen to be always right.

Many people have the tendency to hold on to their beliefs, because they want nothing else but only they be right.

Many don’t give up to what they believe even when they are presented solid arguments, so in front of these people it is better not to open topics upon which you know they never want to reflect, because discussions with them are nothing but a waste of energy.

Not expecting other perspectives reveal a strong ego: infatuation. It is better to keep our opinions calmly knowing to listen to the arguments of others. Finally, both parties can agree that they can agree.

9. Happy people don’t have expectations.

One of the biggest challenges of life is that of accepting people exactly as they are.

Once you learn that the expectations you have won’t change the others, your life will be increasingly better.

Problems arise when the expectations fail to materialize. Unrealistic expectations often lead to great disapointments in relation with others.

Having no expectations helps you to live freely without the immense pressure of the preconceptions about what a situation should be, or how should others be.

10. Happy people don’t avoid the problems they have.

When problems arise, as it’s actually normal in everyone’s life, some people tend to “hide them under the carpet”, instead of finding ways to solve them.

Ignoring problems means to bury yourself deeper into feelings of anxiety and stress.

11. Happy people seek happiness in their depths and not on the outside.

Thus, for these people, happiness doesn’t depend on how they look, on the car they own, or the branded handbag they’ve purchased.

For these people, happiness is within. We have the power to give a new connotation to the surrounding world, which is crucial in order to remain positive.

Search within yourself to find happiness. It doesn’t depend on anyone else, not even your partner.. nobody, not even on the material possessions you have, it depends only on you!

To look for happiness outside is a mistake so many people make in their lives!

12. Happy people don’t think so much about problems.

To constantly think of something that causes you an inconvenient is not the best solution.

Often, the way in which we over-exaggerate a problem causes disputes, quarrels between people. There’s no benefit from this habit of exaggerating a situation.

The harder we analyze, the more we tend to become more negative, more anxious, and the solution will fail to appear soon. It’s better to treat everything with detachment and confidence in life, that everything is and will be fine.

13. Happy people don’t live in the past.

The past is past for a good reason. There’s really no reason for us to remain there, mentally hanged to it, since it cannot be changed. Happy people made peace with their past, or are on the way to it, living with intensity everything the present moment offers them and creating a future for themselves as they want it. They actively try to get all that is beautiful in their lives.

14. Happy people don’t follow the herd.

Confidence in themselves, in everything they want, is essential for these people. They are so confident in the values they have that nothing seems to shake them. They have the inclination to become leaders for those around them.

15. Happy people don’t take anything personal.

And finally.. but not insignificant, is that happy people don’t take what is being said to them, personally.

They don’t exaggerate a situation or a commentary brought to them.

They listen carefully what others tell them, whether it is “good” or a critique…

Some people live even small dramas not exactly understanding the message that was delivered to them, which is not exactly good for their emotional state.

In fact, we have the control over how we interpret things.

Think about how much you could gain when you look with a fresh perspective over a situation, rather than looking just through your own eyes.

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